We spoke to Selina and Vicki, the creators of online love and relationships course Project Love, to find out how self-dating can benefit us all.They told us: ‘Dating yourself is a way of discovering who you are and the things that bring you joy.Learning how to be alone is a life skill everyone needs.You should never feel anxious to eat alone at a restaurant or go to a movie alone.Take yourself out for dinner, take yourself on a picnic in the park, and take yourself to the beach to watch the sunset. Take moments to do absolutely nothing except breathe. When we take time out to be grateful for the legs that hold us, or the eyes that allow us to see, the ears that allow us to hear music, or the talents that let you shine a little differently, our perspective begins to shift. Remember, when you take the time to intentionally date yourself, you actually start to find your identity.This works best if you don’t bring your phone with you, and you leave yourself alone with yourself. You are worth the energy it takes to take good care of yourself. Sit in a comfortable position, put both feet on the floor, and inhale deeply in, hold, and then deeply exhale. This will help allow you to be present in the moment. As a result, you start to feel more comfortable in your own skin – which ultimately leads to a successful and healthy relationship with not only yourself, but with others.Do you have the emotional resources to commit to another person? Lastly, what steps are you going to have to take to get where you want to be in all areas of your life? Your relationship status is by no means a reflection of your value as a person.Or is it just awkward that you’re single because all your friends are getting married? You shouldn’t feel ashamed or weird by the answers to these questions. You’ll just get a head start because you’re not constantly distracted by another person. Being single is just a state of being – not a curse. You’re less likely to take a job in another city or travel across the world if you’re tied down.
Being free of that is like losing an anchor weighing you down. But the most important relationship you have in life is the one you have with yourself. And so you stay in, with your only adventure out of bed a brief trip to the sofa. Enter masturdating – the way to get in on all the couple-y stuff, without being a couple.That means going out to dinner alone, or taking yourself to see a movie, or going to that art gallery you’ve always wanted to visit. But add something extra, like a nice bottle of wine and fancy snacks.Making Yourself a Priority Taking Yourself Out Getting to Know Yourself Community Q&A When you're dating someone, you treat them well and make time for them regularly.That's a great way to treat a significant other, but why not show yourself the same courtesy?