He says he really cares about you, but doesn’t really act like it.And while you’re on this topsy-turvy ride, all you want to know is does this guy like me or not?!They say he’s sending mixed messages or playing games or is afraid of getting hurt.Ladies, my many years of dating and writing about dating have taught me one thing: there are no mixed messages. Here are five tell-tale signs that he’s not: If a guy shows no interest or excitement over finding out who you are, it’s not a good sign. When I was single, my litmus test in determining how much I liked a guy was how much I want to know about him (it was a good test because with my husband, I couldn’t get enough and even after our 7-hour long first date there was so much more I was dying to know! If after a date I felt satisfied and literally didn’t have any questions I felt were left unanswered, I would move on to the next.When a guy really likes you, it’s usually pretty obvious. The uncertainty usually runs rampant if a guy seems to fall somewhere in between.He disappears for days at a time and then texts you the sweetest message you’ve ever received.
He might mention other date ideas he has for the two of you (he’ll find a way to slide it in there, like you say you love Indian food and him being like “I know a great Indian restaurant I’ll take you to next time”), or he’ll flat out tell you he wants to see you again.You’ll get the basics: where he’s from, where he went to school, how he got into such and such line of work…the things you can just as easily find out on Facebook and Linkedin.If a guy is into you, he will open up and will peel back that outer layer.You see, a guy can be somewhat interested, but not into it.Instead of seeing it for what it is, women make up excuses and justifications to rationalize the bad behavior away.