That's a doubly sticky situation since it leaves the big spender somewhat in control of the relationship.With visits, alternate who visits whom and consider meeting in the middle on occasion.On the other hand, be careful about relying on e-mail to resolve conflicts.The problem here is that e-mail feels as casual as a phone call, but it's permanent. Tone, intentions and content can all be easily misconstrued.Every moment does not have to be perfect or perfectly scheduled.Conversely, understand that the perfection of weekend getaways likely won't continue once a normal relationship is possible. And using some of these tools will stop "separation pressures" that might prevent you from getting there.
These were called "letters." You can also send care packages and little gifts, or peruse the selection of sicky sweet cards at your local Hallmark store.
However you do it, be conscious of the costs involved and try to apportion them in a fair manner.
It can cause resentment if one of you foots the bill for everything.
For instance, unless you're looking for a casual, non-exclusive relationship, at some point, one of you is going to have to move.
That can add a whole lot of stress to your already strained couplehood. Are you evaluating whether one of you will move, and if so, does that mean marriage?